Stopping to Blame ‘Something’ or ‘Someone’

When someone is doing something or is about to do something, in a way we don’t want it to be done and when we are not able to accept it, we become angry.

However, When someone is doing something or is about to do something, in a way we don’t want it to be done - and we are able to accept it- we remain tolerant.

When someone has something which we don’t have, or someone is able to produce the results which we are not able to produce- and we are not able to accept it – we become jealous.

When someone has something which we don’t have, or someone is able to produce the results which we are not able to produce and we are able to accept it we get inspired.

Then emotional equation is quite simple.
Something + Acceptance = Positive Emotion
Something + Non Acceptance = Negative Emotion

So, it is not ‘something’ or ‘someone’ who is making us feel positive or negative, but it is our ‘acceptance’ or ‘non acceptance’ of something or someone, which is making us feel positive or negative.

It isn’t the world but the quality of our response to the world that determines the quality of our emotions. Next time we feel disturbed with a negative emotion, instead of asking who or what is disturbing us, we will examine who or what we are resisting (not accepting) that is causing this disturbance in us. We will replace resistance (non acceptance) with acceptance, and the negative emotion will turn into a positive one.

Emotional management begins by stopping to blame that ‘something’ or ‘someone’ and starting to take the responsibility to respond life with ‘acceptance’.

Fear

Don't waste your life in doubts and fears: spend yourself on the work before you, well assured that the right performance of this hour's duties will be the best preparation for the hours or ages that follow it

Last Lecture

I was hearing today a lecture by Dr. Randy Pausch. The lecture he gave days before he was about to die.I noted down few things that we can have as a thumb rule ...

1)when you are doing a bad job ,no body points out at you .. thats when they have give up on you ..
Who blasts you for your bad job ,they care to make you better

2)Be Humble ... He told about his father ... His father was awarded a prestigious Medal by US Govt for his involvement in II world war ... After 50 years ,eventually after his father' s death .. they saw this medal .. he never disclosed even to his wife .

3) work and play with others

4) Tell the truth

5) Apologise for the mistakes u did

6) Wait and people will show the good side

7) show gratitude

8)Dont complain ; Just work harder -> that will help u in the long run



-- Looks simpler but good points ... If i have this as a thumb rule I will become perfect

I love living life ... I am Happy :-) :-)

I don't want to say anything ...All below

I don't want to be selfish :-)

A persons true character cannot be understood by their outward

character.I have always tried to act as an un-selfish person.

But when put in situations i act the way i do not like.

Later realize that i should not have acted in that way.

"Perfection comes through practice" is what i believe.

Here is an example video of "What i am trying to convey "

I can go to hell if others will go to heaven.

--Prem